Posted on Jul 14, 2013 Leave a Comment
I found myself telling a friend that life is a hall of mirrors today, in reference to her son’s disconcerting decisions. My point was that since I believe we choose our life paths as a way of working through unresolved issues and karma, our life circumstances serve as mirrors for our progress through those issues. Another way of putting it is that the Universe presents us with potential life lessons in the form of challenging situations. How we respond determines our experiences.
Until we master the lessons, we have no choice but to re-engage in old unhealthy behaviors, which elicit the same undesirable results. By engaging in the dysfunctional pattern presented, we choose to repeat that life lesson.
I have another saying, “The camera pans back to us.” Instead of focusing on the mean people in our lives or the unfair treatment we receive or the frustrating impasses we find ourselves in again, we need to recognize the roll we play in creating such dramas. When we identify the patterns that attract this kind of people, treatment or frustration into our lives, we can determine what we need to clear to release the patterns.
Once we’ve mastered the lesson, we can graciously decline the offer of the lesson. We no longer allow that kind of interaction, engage in that kind of dysfunctional relationship, or put ourselves in that kind of compromising position. We have healed the parts of ourselves that required us to continually run into the same walls.
When we’re free of the old patterns, we can make healthier choices, have higher standards for the kind of treatment we accept, and advocate for ourselves in a mature way. Thus we no longer find ourselves in the position of being mistreated or disrespected. We’ve created a new normal. Life is still a hall of mirrors, only now we like what we see staring back at us!
Posted on Apr 20, 2013 Leave a Comment
As the distressing events in Boston and Texas unfolded this week, I received a consistent message to be the calm in the storm and to shine my Light in the darkness. I also received beautiful spiritual insights and experienced breakthroughs through identifying and clearing old patterns that had been plaguing me and my relationships. I believe this is the opportunity available to all of us in the face of life’s upheavals. There are two octaves in every experience: higher and lower. We have a choice: do we want to succumb to the apparent negativity and dysfunction of the situation, or do we choose to use it as a window into what needs healing and upgrading in ourselves, our lives and our world?
If we choose the higher octave, we first need to step back and observe the patterns, not just the conflictual to and fro of the situation. In chess they say, “see the whole board”, in order to understand the larger dynamics and decide more wisely what your next move should be. In stressful situations, we tend to go into react mode, with a view toward self (and loved-ones) preservation. If we can look at life’s crises as opportunities for intervention and growth, we can become our own advocates in the process of personal evolution. It’s like the difference between walking through a maze with the perspective from ground level versus looking down from above the maze walls. When you understand your options and where each pathway leads, you can make much better decisions.
When we see our relational challenges as reflecting patterns we need to heal and release, we can spend our energy freeing ourselves and those we love from the dysfunction that causes the challenges. This is known as karma clearing. It is one of the most powerful uses of Trinity Energy Progression. This high vibrational, loving energy identifies, clears, and releases the underlying core issues, causes and karma of all kinds of situations, physical illness/injuries/conditions, or relationships.
As many traditions suggest, forgiveness is the most powerful liberator. The Hawaiians have Ho’oponopono. Catholics have Confession/Sacrament of Reconciliation. Alcoholics Anonymous have Step 9 – making amends to all you’ve harmed. While still in Trinity Energy, I use a basic thank, forgive, and release process. This frees me and the other person/people from karmic patterns. I first thank them for the important, if unpleasant, lessons they have represented for me. Next, I forgive them for any perceived pain/injury they have caused me, and ask the same of them (whether I think I’ve caused them pain or not). Finally, I release us both to proceed along our paths freely, for the most benevolent outcome of all.
Once we remove the unhealthy dynamic that previously existed in a relationship, it can move forward in the best and highest way for everyone involved. While we can’t control the new direction of the relationship any more than we controlled the old one, we know it will be in everyone’s best interest. I believe this is a major part of our life’s work. And what a joy it is to lighten our loads! After clearing karma from two relationships this week, which had felt like fifty-pound weights around my heart just minutes before, I found myself smiling from ear to ear. What a wonderful end to a heavy-hearted week!
Posted on Apr 13, 2013 Leave a Comment
In certain professions, we have the opportunity to interact on a personal level with people at important junctures of their lives. Often we are unaware of the impact of our seemingly routine activities until much later. As a teacher, These interactions can take place on a day to day basis, building relationships that support and/or guide students at a pivotal stage of development. It can also take the form of specific actions or interventions. I am often asked to write recommendations for students. Because my students apply to some of the most competitive universities and scholarship programs in the country, this seemingly administrative task can influence the trajectories of their lives.
Yesterday, I was shocked to learn of the passing of one such former student on Thursday. Her name was Laura Rozo. She was an extremely gifted and driven young woman who experienced as much in two decades as many people do in eight. She moved to Florida from Latin America, learned English and French, excelled in all academic areas, as well as on the swim team. We later learned that she’d been involved in a hostage situation as a child, which only inspired greater determination to embrace every moment of her life.
When Laura’s family moved to North Carolina, she transferred to our high school and my French II class. She immediately realized she’d already covered the material our class was studying. Since the semester had started, it was too late to change classes, so I suggested she do an independent study in which she could review and take each chapter test at her own pace. She quickly exhausted the French II curriculum, and so, exceptionally, I allowed her to continue on with the French III book. Laura is one of the only non-native speakers I’ve ever taught who could seamlessly absorb advanced level grammar and vocabulary with little to no external instruction. It was as if she swallowed the information whole. She was able to place out of French III and enter French IV, which enabled her to complete the French V and Advanced Placement classes in her remaining year and a half of high school.
When it came time to apply for the coveted Morehead-Cain Scholarship, Laura asked me to write a letter of recommendation. This was clearly one of the easiest letters I’ve ever written. If you’re unfamiliar with it, the Morehead-Cain Scholarship is the oldest merit scholarship program established at the oldest public university, UNC Chapel Hill, in the United States. It awards a full 4-year scholarship as well as multiple outdoor, international, business and service opportunities to approximately 3% of its international nominees.
Laura was eventually named our school’s first Morehead-Cain scholar. I remember getting updates throughout the process and excitedly discussing her upcoming adventures between classes in the hall. Her future seemed brilliant and unlimited. She was looking forward to going sea kayaking in Alaska that summer after graduation. Just over a year later, while back-packing through Portugal, she experienced such leg swelling that she had to be rushed to the hospital by local police, and received her initial diagnosis of cancer. She was flown directly to UNC Cancer Center in a private jet, where she learned she had Matastic Rhabdomyosarcoma. She began her first round of chemotherapy treatment. This resulted in just three months of remission before her cancer returned. She made a beautiful surprise presentation at Tedx UNC, entitled “If Not Now, When?” You can view it on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X73qA-Q8_Qk.
In her presentation, Laura describes her process as well as taking flying lessons, parachuting from an airplane, and teaching Salsa lessons from her hospital bed while in treatment. She got an Indian henna tattoo, which conveys spiritual blessings, on her bald head. She was driven to suck the marrow from the bones of life until the very last moment. I like to think she took flying lessons in preparation for her next promotion – soaring through the universe on angel’s wings, unhindered by skin and bones. Laura was truly a force of Nature, with almost too much life force to be contained in one human body. I believe she remained in the 3D as long as she was able, and then had no choice but to transcend it. I was able to connect with her spirit and convey my congratulations for her “early graduation” from life. True to form, I found her ecstatic and joyful in the boundlessness of eternity.
I believe we all come here for a specific time, with a to-do list of lessons, goals and gifts for humanity. While it is always excruciating to lose loved ones, especially so young, I don’t believe a person’s life needs to last 80 years to be complete. In my opinion, Laura lived a full life in her seemingly brief stay on Earth. I am honored to have played a tangential role in it, and I celebrate her latest adventure with great enthusiasm!